Personal defection from bombardment

I have been talking to my friend Beth about this recently.  Over a month ago I warned everyone that I was no longer going to hold back when someone asked my opinion.  But I had this epiphany this morning.  That not holding back has nothing to do with them and everything to do with getting things off my chest not helping them out per say.  So I take back what I said.  And go the other way.... I am finished offering advice.  I don't have the energy to keep trying to hold the hands after they ignore the advice or say "well I kept asking for advice and no one gave me any" after I talked to them for hours.  I know I have been busy.  I know that I have been so bogged down with my own ick that it is hard to climb out of it --- but when I am there repeatedly for so many no matter what time of the day and night but I can count on one hand the ones that truly know what is going on with my life.... I am out of balance and it ends for me now.